Q: How much difference is there between fantasy and reality when it comes to swinging, “wife swapping” or threesomes? My wife and I have been married for many years and I’ve been fantasizing about a threesome, or an open relationship for most of the time we’ve been married. But I’ve never acted on it, and would never without her full participation and desire to do it along with me, together. We had a fun night out with another couple who are neighbors the other weekend and the idea of swinging together and switching partners was floated, almost as a joke, but not really a joke. I want to consider it. But I don’t want to jeapordise our marriage of course. What should we be considering before being tempted down this path?
A: First of all, yes, as you do, most people know that there is a huge difference between fantasy and reality. Getting turned on by something in your mind is often very different to witnessing something in real life, or participating in it, and still finding the graphic reality of it genuinely erotic. And not just during, but afterwards as well.
Source: Dr Gabrielle Morrissey